Catch her attention. In order to make it, you have to write your profile beyond ordinary. There is no recipe for everyone on profiles, it is you who is presented there, so the creativity is all yours. Everyone can write: "male, Sagittarius, seeking an attractive...", but only you can invent something special, which represents you and is not a boring stereotype.
Skip the details for later! Your personal description must be concise. So try not to waste the allocated for profile space on little details, give only key features of your personality, your interests and desires. If she will find you interesting (and this is one of the main purposes of your profile: to intrigue her), she will ask you about color of your eyes, size of your shoes and everything else that she might feel interesting to know about you. So save the details for her future inquiries.
Address her right. Address her directly as you, your, i.e. by all means avoid writing in third person. If you write (for example): "I am looking for a single woman, with sense of humor, who appreciates order in her life, but for the same time can find a joy in being caught under summer rain," then she, even if this description fits her perfectly, most likely will pass it by, because, she will feel that this message is addressed to somebody else. Better to write something: "You are kind, cheerful, and passionate. You like to have an order in your life, but sometimes you can get yourself completely and carelessly wet under a warm summer rain." Although both examples are very close in content, it is much likely that she will recognize herself in your words of the last example, and so you will get much better attention from her and, therefore, more chances for success.
Make her smile. You are not writing this profile for job promotion, so any joke, humor, trick will do you only good. If you have a good sense of humor, make sure that she would know about it from the start.
Give her some mystery. With every word you wrote just remember: you are writing to a woman. If she will not find any mystery in you, it is bad, because she will look for someone else who will give her that chance. Men without mystery are boring, so you dont want to be among them, you are working on outstanding profile, you want to be above your competition! Make your story half-told, leave blanks, let her to fill gaps with her own imagination, and then she will wink or write to you. The purpose of your profile is to attract attention, you will get it!
Careful with your exclusion list. The list of those who shall not attempt to contact you must be made with a certain caution. Offering your friendship to all females from 20 to 35 might be too silly, but it will not be much smarter to limit your list to blonde supermodels with Ph.D. in astrophysics. First, if requirements are too high, one can miss his perfect match just because she may think that the author of such profile suffers from some inferiority complex. Second, while nobody is looking for dating ugly ladies. Ladies, in their turn, even most beautiful ones, quite often tend to be displeased with themselves. So by posting too demanding profile one is risking to repel (and he will) someone who might be just his perfect match. You certainly dont want such thing to happen.
Language. The correct writing often is taken as granted, while slips in the grammar are always noticed and taken into consideration. Even if you will write that you are a successful, kind and handsome entrepreneur with a seaside mansion in Malibu who dreams to fill it with kids and pets, two grammar mistakes will give her a serious doubt about your words and your maturity (even if every word your wrote is a word of truth).
Restrain from any physical bravado. Unless you are seeking a brief date for tonight, you better keep any physical notions off your profile. Even if one can make it ten times over night, one should not hurry to tell this to the world, it just sounds silly.
Truth, truth and nothing but the truth. Lie will be revealed sooner or later. Why should you tarnish possibly great relationship with a lie? Be honest with your profile and with the choice of your photos.
Brevity is a virtue. Yes, I know, it is time to wrap up these tips. Just a final word: try not to achieve brevity with abbreviations and omissions, those can be misunderstood. Your profile is not a classified ad, so you will be given enough space for presenting yourself there. Otherwise, woman may think that you will pay her the same untidy attention, as you did with your personal profile. Make it neat, and you will be noticed. Good luck.
Skip the details for later! Your personal description must be concise. So try not to waste the allocated for profile space on little details, give only key features of your personality, your interests and desires. If she will find you interesting (and this is one of the main purposes of your profile: to intrigue her), she will ask you about color of your eyes, size of your shoes and everything else that she might feel interesting to know about you. So save the details for her future inquiries.
Address her right. Address her directly as you, your, i.e. by all means avoid writing in third person. If you write (for example): "I am looking for a single woman, with sense of humor, who appreciates order in her life, but for the same time can find a joy in being caught under summer rain," then she, even if this description fits her perfectly, most likely will pass it by, because, she will feel that this message is addressed to somebody else. Better to write something: "You are kind, cheerful, and passionate. You like to have an order in your life, but sometimes you can get yourself completely and carelessly wet under a warm summer rain." Although both examples are very close in content, it is much likely that she will recognize herself in your words of the last example, and so you will get much better attention from her and, therefore, more chances for success.
Make her smile. You are not writing this profile for job promotion, so any joke, humor, trick will do you only good. If you have a good sense of humor, make sure that she would know about it from the start.
Give her some mystery. With every word you wrote just remember: you are writing to a woman. If she will not find any mystery in you, it is bad, because she will look for someone else who will give her that chance. Men without mystery are boring, so you dont want to be among them, you are working on outstanding profile, you want to be above your competition! Make your story half-told, leave blanks, let her to fill gaps with her own imagination, and then she will wink or write to you. The purpose of your profile is to attract attention, you will get it!
Careful with your exclusion list. The list of those who shall not attempt to contact you must be made with a certain caution. Offering your friendship to all females from 20 to 35 might be too silly, but it will not be much smarter to limit your list to blonde supermodels with Ph.D. in astrophysics. First, if requirements are too high, one can miss his perfect match just because she may think that the author of such profile suffers from some inferiority complex. Second, while nobody is looking for dating ugly ladies. Ladies, in their turn, even most beautiful ones, quite often tend to be displeased with themselves. So by posting too demanding profile one is risking to repel (and he will) someone who might be just his perfect match. You certainly dont want such thing to happen.
Language. The correct writing often is taken as granted, while slips in the grammar are always noticed and taken into consideration. Even if you will write that you are a successful, kind and handsome entrepreneur with a seaside mansion in Malibu who dreams to fill it with kids and pets, two grammar mistakes will give her a serious doubt about your words and your maturity (even if every word your wrote is a word of truth).
Restrain from any physical bravado. Unless you are seeking a brief date for tonight, you better keep any physical notions off your profile. Even if one can make it ten times over night, one should not hurry to tell this to the world, it just sounds silly.
Truth, truth and nothing but the truth. Lie will be revealed sooner or later. Why should you tarnish possibly great relationship with a lie? Be honest with your profile and with the choice of your photos.
Brevity is a virtue. Yes, I know, it is time to wrap up these tips. Just a final word: try not to achieve brevity with abbreviations and omissions, those can be misunderstood. Your profile is not a classified ad, so you will be given enough space for presenting yourself there. Otherwise, woman may think that you will pay her the same untidy attention, as you did with your personal profile. Make it neat, and you will be noticed. Good luck.
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